Around this time of the year we end up doing things we are “supposed” to do, or that are “expected” of us, so we end up not honoring ourselves and possibly not even enjoying the holidays.
The holidays are supposed to be a good time with our friends and loved ones, but unless you take good care of your energy you won’t be enjoying any of them.
Taking care of you and your energy is more important that anyone else’s. So, I’m asking you to consciously reconsider what you’re about to do in the next few days.
Be a bit selfish
The main thing here is to pay attention to how you feel (your energy/vibe), and set out the intention of how you want to feel during these days. By doing this it will be easier for you to enjoy the holidays and even carry the good energy over to the New Year.
Some people, especially those who don’t have your best interest at hand but their own, might tell you that you’re being selfish. But if taking care of yourself first and foremost means that you’re selfish, then so be it.
So, take a look at each of the activities you end up doing during this time of the year and reconsider them based on how they feel to you. Remember, the goal is to always feel good with you and with your life.
Many people save money all year long to spending it during these days. Many max out their credit cards just for these days. I understand that there are very good specials and sales these days, and somehow many more items appear in the stores that you don’t regularly see during the previous months and don’t see much after either, which makes it even more dazzling and un-resistible. I think it’s a scarcity strategy that retailers use to create urgency so we end up buying stuff we don’t really need.
So, I recommend you use this strategy that I now try to do most of the time. I had to go through many experiences to understand it, so maybe you also need to go through some experiences first to learn it, but here it is for whenever you’re ready.
This is the strategy I now use whenever I’m buying something:
One in three Americans are expected to travel this holiday season. If you’re traveling, make sure it is what you truly want and not what is expected of you, or what others want you do to.
Traveling takes a lot of time, energy and money. Unless you feel good about spending all of those, then traveling is a good thing for you and I wish you the best time. If not, reconsider your options.
Other options are to spend time with your local family, with your close friends, who sometimes are closer than family members, or with a group of people you feel close to. Just try to choose to spend your time with people who make you feel uplifted, people who make you feel good, and send love to those who don’t.
This is a big one. I know there’s nothing like family since they were our first love when we were children. But I want you to be aware and realize that you don’t have to visit people if you don’t want to. Doing what others expect you to do, or want you to do, is you giving away your power without consent.
Also, going back to visit relatives means that you go back to remembering and sometimes reliving unpleasant experiences from your past, and that strongly affects your energy in your present. It’s like by going back to that memory in your past you grab the essence of the energy from that time and bring it to your present now.
If you’ve been working on cleaning your energy, going back to negative feeling memories will affect you negatively. This is when visiting relatives should not happen if you’re not ready to let those negative feeling memories in the past.
Not everyone is in the same understanding and may not get you especially if you’re taking more care of your energy and how you feel. This may seem selfish on their eyes because you will no longer want to do what they want you to do for their own benefit and agenda. And that’s okay. To you, you should always be first because no one else will do it for you, nor should they.
Gatherings are a great time to socialize. But for some people gatherings are just a bunch of mix of energies and noise where you cannot truly connect with others as you’d like it. Definitely gatherings are not for everyone.
Even if you do the travel and the shopping and visiting relatives, you can still skip the gatherings if you think that will affect your energy. Or you can agree to be at the gatherings for a short amount of time and then leave. Gatherings tend to be exhausting so make sure you take good care of your energy.
I love gatherings, I enjoy family and I like people in general. Now that I know myself better, I know that even though I love people, I need to recharge myself in between. I do so by taking a few minutes of alone time with me, mySelf and I. Make sure you plan for recharge time if you feel you’ll need it.
You cannot always control what goes on outside. But you can always control what goes on inside.” – Dr. Wayne Dyer
Again, always pay close attention to how you feel and make any necessary changes you need to make so you feel good emotionally, so you feel relaxed physically and mentally, and so you feel you’re in control of your life –even when for moments you consciously, willingly and graciously, give your power away.
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