Unfortunately children don’t come with a manual when they are born and sometimes what we have learned from our parents, and those around us, are not exactly the best instructions we want to follow to raise our children.
Have you ever asked yourself if there is another way to parent your children? if yes, then you’re already on your way to find a better option. The asking draws in the answers and you’re about to find some of them now.
I had my first child when I was a teenager. At that time my parenting style was mostly composed of the idea of the parent I didn’t want to be like, of what I thought was the best at the moment, and of what was deeply ingrained in me. Not very wise, right?
By the time I had my girls I was in my 30's. By then I had enough experience at being a parent. I had enough vision at the parent style I wanted to be this time, and I had much more mind into it. This time I knew better and wanted better. I had evolved mentally, emotionally and spiritually and my parenting style evolved with it.
As I prepared for this post, I began paying attention to what I found to be good parenting, according to my current perspectives and beliefs, and this is what I found. These are not rules nor set-in-stone do’s and don’ts. These are just my findings and you can take and leave whatever you want.
Do’s of Parenting:
Our children are not going to be just “Our Children” –they are going to be other people’s husbands and wives and the parents of our grandchildren” –Mary Steichen Calderone
Don’ts of parenting:
If you think you are a bad parent, it’s because you’re always rating your parenting style based on the “bad parent list” you are looking at. We all go there at some point or another, so you will definitely find something there to resonate with.
But let me tell you this: ”You are looking at the wrong list!”. Turn the other cheek and face the list of what being a good parent is. Focus on what you want for your children which is being a good parent. You’ll see that you will find more things to resonate with in the “good parent list” and you and your children will feel so much better while you do so.
When in doubt, choose the kids. There will be plenty of time later to choose work” –Anna Quindlen
Being a parent doesn’t have to be that hard or stressful. Our main job, as parents, is to do the most we can to raise the next generation of humans and to enjoy them in the process. It doesn’t have to be that complicated.
Do you have another effective Do’s and Don’ts in your parenting style that you want to share? Let me know in the comments below.