How Wishing Your Past Was Different Only Thwarts Your Future

6/18/2021

Do you ever wish you could have done things differently in the past so your future would improve?

The past is already done. But when you change your perspective about it that will help improve your future for sure.

Regret vs improvement

Thinking of things you could have done differently when you were a teenager, five years ago, or yesterday, only gives you two options to go about it.

You could either look at your experiences from the point of view of wanting to improve them, or from the point of view of regretting them.

When you regret something, you are looking at it from the point of view of, well, regret. Regret is at 10 on the Harmony Scale (THS) of emotions.

When you want to improve something, you are looking at it from the point of view of either possibility (60 in THS) or from a point of view of acceptance—acceptance of what is and ready to move on (80 in THS).

What’s your perspective of life?

Our perception of life seen from a point of view of 10 is so much different than seen from a point of view of 60 or 80—a much more empowered point of view.

When we see life from the 0-50 range in THS, we are seeing life from a point of view in which we feel victims of our circumstances and life. Everything we see from there is about us protecting ourselves because someone or something might eventually hurt us.

When we see life from the 60-100 range, we feel empowered. We feel we have a handle on this thing called life. At this point of view, we don’t see who is going to hurt us, we see who is there to support us.

Your power is in the now

All of your power to improve your life is in the present—it lies in your freedom to choose how you want to feel. You can say that the way you feel now is like planning for the future.

If you feel bad now, you are planning unpleasantness for your future.

If you feel good now, you are planning pleasantness for your future.

This means that you change your future by paying attention to how you feel now. Your present and future are all you can change, and it's all in your hands.

Keep in mind that if you really want to live a new and better future, you cannot look into the past for something new. The past is old. You need to look into new possibilities. You start seeing new possibilities when you feel good—starting from 60 in THS.

Try not to dwell on what you might have done differently, you cannot change the past, and it only spoils the future.” —Victoria Thompson

Your new and better future depends on how good you feel right now. Not yesterday, five years ago, or when you were a teenager. You have to feel good now. Use the Harmony Scale and the 4 Steps to help you.

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