Learn to See Others

Learn to “See” Others

4/16/2020

This quarantine period, when you’re mostly at home with your family, is the perfect time to learn to “see” people. Start with those in your house.

Any time is a good time to learn to “see” people. Learning to see others is about seeing more than you physically see. You can learn to do this starting right now.

I “see” you

One of the things I learned from the Avatar movie is the concept of “seeing” people. “Seeing” a person is something similar to when people greet each other saying “Namasté”. The regular Indian translation of the word namasté means “I bow to you”. There are many spiritual translations for the word namasté, but the most common one is “The divine light in me bows to the divine light within you.”

They both, “I see you” and “Namasté”, are about being able to see a person more deeply than just their physical or personality aspects. It’s more about being able to see their Soul and honor it.

To learn to see people, you look intently at their eyes and put aside any preconceived assumption or requirement and just appreciate them. This is similar to looking at a baby and not thinking about what she will do, be, or have in the future—it’s just about appreciating her. When you can do this, you could say you're learning to see others with the eyes of Source-God.

Loving them unconditionally

Loving someone unconditionally, like loving a baby, means that there are no conditions to love them. They don’t need to be anyone we need them to be; they don’t need to have anything we need them to have; and they don’t need to do anything we need them to do. We just love them, again, as we love a baby. We never expect anything from a baby and even so we protect him and love him dearly.

Get to know them

Once you know how to “see” people, begin to know their personalities. Ask them questions about themselves. Don’t try to judge, compare, or analyze. Just listen and pay attention to what they like, dislike, enjoy, etc. Everybody wants to be heard. What a better opportunity to listen to them than now.

Accept them as they are

Everybody wants to be heard and everybody wants to be accepted for who they are. Don’t try to make them behave in a way that you are pleased with. Don’t try to control anyone, much less try to change them. We don’t have the power to change anyone anyway. We can only influence them. So, let’s just accept them for who they are—for who they chose to be in this lifetime, and learn to be a peace with that.

Hug them and tell them you love them

Never before had we felt the need to hug our loved ones more than now. Never before had we noticed how valuable touch and hugs were. Let’s show our love and appreciation to our loved ones with hugs and loving words. Yes, they know we love them, but everyone wants to be reminded they still are. Don’t take them for granted. You never know when is going to be the last time you see them.

Incompatible?

Since we cannot leave our houses much during this quarantine, you might have noticed that you no longer have an affinity to your spouse, partner, roommate, etc. You could say you two are incompatible. For now, learn to “see” their Soul. Make peace with your feelings and try to improve your relationship.

There is no need to abuse them physically, mentally, or emotionally. If you feel frustration or fear because of the pandemic or because of the inability to escape from the house, use your breath to calm yourself down. Five seconds to inhale, 5 seconds to hold breath, and 5 seconds to exhale.

If things just do not seem to work out between you two anymore, allow yourself to let go of that person. And whenever you are calm, and it’s appropriate, talk to them to make a plan for whatever changes need to be made. Help each other out for now.

If you want to bring happiness to the world, go home and love your family” —Mother Teresa

Learning to see others helps you to be more compassionate and kind towards them at the same time you learn things about yourself. When you make it your priority to see and love others, you will increase the love, compassion, and kindness you have for yourself—and vice versa.

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