Charged vs empty words
Negative charged words usually come from the rummaging mind especially when there have been unpleasant emotions that the mind has been thinking over and over until they turn in to false monsters.
Neutral or indifferent words are also spoken all the time. Although they’re still words, one can feel they are empty with no charge at all.
The kind of charged words that come out of your mouth are usually directly correlated to how you feel emotionally. If you feel regret, guilt, depression or sadness, most of the words you speak will be charged with those emotions you are feeling. If you feel angry, insecure, annoyed or indifferent, most of the words you speak will be charged with those emotions you are feeling. But if you are feeling optimistic, content, happy, forgiving, wise and loving, most of the words you speak will be charged with those emotions.
So, pay attention to how you’re feeling emotionally before you speak to others, but most importantly, before you speak to yourself.
Use positive charged words to empower and heal yourself
Knowing the tremendous power you have in your words, should make it easier for you to begin treating yourself better.
How do you call yourself when you make a mistake? Do you say “Oh you dummy!” Or do you say “oh well, that’s interesting”? Notice the charge of self-blame in the first response compared to the charge or openness in the second one.
Remember, you’re always who you say you are. Who do you say you are? Take a look at these expressions, slowly read them and pay attention to how each one of them feels in your body:
- I am fine
- I am great
- I am bad
- I am good
- I am sad
- I am happy
- I am an idiot
- I am kind
- I am stupid
- I am smart
- I am sick
- I am healthy
- I am depressed
- I am joyful
- I am angry
- I am love
- I am stuck
- I am free
Did you notice the difference? Did you notice how each one feels? If you have a strong connection with your Self, you must have had a kick in the stomach every time you affirmed the negative charged expressions. That bad feeling is a sign of your true Self not agreeing with that affirmation.
Once you know this information you cannot help it but be more conscious of what you say to yourself. So, make sure you are kind and compassionate to yourself please, this is another way of showing love for your Self.
Remember, you are your most precious possession, so how are you going to treat yourself? What are you going to say to yourself?
It will take time but with minute-by-minute practice you will become a master of your own words and a master of your own feelings. Do not rely on others to hear what you need to hear, they’re already struggling with their own war of words in their minds.
Use positive charged words to empower and heal others
When this happens, make sure that you use the same evaluation method, the feeling in your gut, to determine the charge of the words you are offering to them.
I also recommend you to pay attention to the charge of their words more than to what they’re saying. Do not go about judging, criticizing or bring them out in the open, but with patience, kindness and compassion, and only when they ask you to, you’re going to translate to them the energy of what you are hearing.
Maybe they don’t even realize the energy they’re carrying around themselves and a small reflection from you can help them make a small change in their lives which may help to bring some healing to them. But remember, you have to work on yourself first.
Be careful how you are talking to yourself because you are listening.” —Lisa M. Hayes
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