Why to focus on yourself
No, taking care of you is not being selfish because when you focus on what you want, you take into account everything and everyone that matters to you. For instance, family is very important to everyone. If your immediate family is going to be okay, then you are at peace. If your immediate family is not going to be okay, then you’re not at peace.
Focusing on yourself and taking care of you is not being selfish; it’s being conscious of the decisions you make about everything and everyone around you that are part of your peace.
Role models of self-focus
Imagine all the lives you could positively help change just by taking care of what matters to you. You don’t have to pay attention to who’s watching or what you’re unconsciously teaching. Just be you, just focus on you. Do what matters to you first and they’ll get what they need to get for themselves at that moment.
Some examples of people with great self-focus, which at the same time did wonders for others, are Dr. Martin Luther King, Mahatma Gandhi, Mother Teresa, and many more.
You might think, oh they did what they did to help others. And I say, no they did what they did because that made them feel good, true and alive. They did what they did because they had a very strong belief of action within themselves that needed to come out otherwise they would not be able to live with themselves. They did what they did because that’s what they wanted to do.
How to focus on yourself
Those with power and loud voices have made it clear over the centuries that sacrificing ourselves for others, especially for them, is the right thing to do. I’d say it’s the right thing to do if doing what they want you to do feels good and true to you. If it doesn’t feel good and true to you, then it’s not the right thing for you to do.
I’m not saying drop your responsibilities and go away from them. If you have those responsibilities you need to take care of them until it feels good and true to you to let them go. If you leave them before it's time you might be hurting yourself.
What I’m saying here is that you need to make sure that whatever decisions you make are decisions with which you’re able to live with; decisions that are going to make you feel good about yourself and about your life.
Self-sacrifice which denies common sense is not a virtue, it’s a spiritual dissipation.” –Margaret Deland
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